Self-sabotage is in the news these days and it raises the perennially asked but rarely well-answered question: “Why?” What follows will be deeply covered in my upcoming course The Art of Open Connection. Specifically, I’ll teach you how to see the track people are on and what they’re dead-ending, so you can help or steer clear,…
If you try to accomplish something big, you’ll need other people. This is one of the many reasons why relationships are so important. Sooner or later, you will hurt another person. It doesn’t matter how good a person you are, or how good your intentions were, we hurt others. That’s life. We’re wounded. We hurt,…
First, I’d like to announce my fall course: Zen & the Art of Meta which begins Thursday September 12 at 11:30-1:30 pm PT. We’re doing two, two-hour sessions per month now instead of four single-hour ones to allow for deeper explorations. Click the link and/or reply to this email to learn more. In the spirit of…
Trigger warning, The following may elicit feelings You don’t want to feel, It may remind you of things You don’t want to think about, It may call for you to examine Uncomfortable aspects of yourself That you work hard to ignore, Trigger warning, You may experience vulnerable emotions like Hurt, anxiety, anguish, and shame, Emotions…
First, a quick announcement: my next course, Revealing Your Unconscious begins 9/7/23. This will be a powerful workshop mapping how your unconscious is running your life and what you can do about it. I’m heartbroken about what happened in Lahaina. Many of you who know I live on Maui reached out and I appreciate that. Fortunately, I…
Before I dive into an explanation for this hopefully provocative headline, I want to let you know my next live course, The Art of Asking Questions, begins March 31, 2022. The individual’s experience used to not matter so much, especially their feelings. Psychology is only about 120 years old and, prior to the late Renaissance, what the…
I was bullied a lot as a kid, and I want to tell you a story about power. Seventh grade had just ended. Even more than the summer sun, freedom and excitement filled the air, but not for me. I quietly sat on the bus home, harassed yet again by who we’ll call Z. Z…
Life is teaching us about money right now. Are you getting the message? Perhaps I can help translate. We heard a lot about how many people live “paycheck-to-paycheck” in the news when COVID hit. Statistics range from 40-80% and other data back it up. In 2019, Americans carried an average of $6,124 in revolving credit…
Is there such a thing as being too nice? I once coached five members of an executive team in an online retail business. The CEO complained of “communication issues” and some people not pulling their weight. Three of the members were co-founders of the company and long-time friends. To sit in a room with them,…
Mary, a manager in a manufacturing company, recently told me about a very stressful performance review she conducted. She gave her employee, John, some challenging feedback about how poorly he did his job. John was aghast. Not only did he think he was doing well, but he had been expecting a raise. He left the…