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Where Your Values Came From and Why You Should Care Part 2/2

Objectivism & Subjectivism: How You Relate to Relating First, last chance to join my next live course, Revealing Your Unconscious, which begins September 7, 2023. If you have any long-standing issues, business or otherwise, that you haven’t been able to change, this course is for you. — Which is more important, facts or feelings? Have you…

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The craziest ideas Are welcome when we're Desperate for sense

The Unconscious Roots of Conspiracy Theory

Recently, I wrote about some of the deepest root causes of the Lahaina fires. But opinions vary, have you noticed? I have to admit, I was surprised when I heard the conspiracy theories, and then I was surprised that I was surprised. I’ve always had a kind of naive optimism that I’m sure was necessary to stop…

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When we solve problems only on the outside we invite them back

The Price of Incompetence: The Real Cause of the Lahaina Tragedy

First, a quick announcement: my next course, Revealing Your Unconscious begins 9/7/23. This will be a powerful workshop mapping how your unconscious is running your life and what you can do about it. I’m heartbroken about what happened in Lahaina. Many of you who know I live on Maui reached out and I appreciate that. Fortunately, I…

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What's most important To you was decided By somebody else

Where Your Values Came From and Why You Should Care Part 1/2

Do you live an examined life? More people think so than actually do. If some of your deeply held values, views, and approaches to life were dead-ended by millions before you, would you want to know? If so, keep reading. If not, I wish you all the best! As a doorway into this subject, let’s…

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When the actions don’t Make sense, look to the Unconscious where they will

Essential Evil or Unconscious Wounds: You decide

This is a story about human tragedy. That’s the content. But the context is far more important: it’s about how our childhood wounds cause suffering in ourselves and others if we don’t address them. Andrew was born to a financially comfortable but emotionally troubled family. While he was the fourth child, he was the first…

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The lie of the mind Is that you can feel love While you repress pain

Why Adults Aren’t Victims, Especially in Relationships Part 3/3

Part 3/3: Just Feel It First, a reminder that my next live course, Intuitive Leadership & Living begins June 22. You will complete the course with a stronger intuition than you start. That’s an asset for anyone. For leaders, it’s required. Dojo membership prices go up from $129/mo to $159/mo on 6/22, so now is…

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Triggers are either Curses, or blessings If you’re curious

Why Adults Aren’t Victims, Especially in Relationships Part 2/3

Part 2/3: How Triggers Are Gifts You Want To Unwrap Trigger Warning: I’m about to deconstruct your ability to play victim to triggers. In part one of this series, we reframed the victim-enabling concept of good versus evil with the relatively new idea of unconscious contributions to behavior. Because the concept of the unconscious is…

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The best thing about Thinking they’re bad is It means you’re good

Why Adults Aren’t Victims, Especially in Relationships Part 1/3

Part 1/3: How the Outdated Frame of Good Versus Evil Enables Victimhood Relationships are hard, right? It’s true, but they’re harder than they need to be. The inherent challenge of intimate relating is exacerbated by unconscious, flawed perspectives. What follows, most people in our world would find deeply offensive and impossible to swallow. It’s commonly…

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Self-confidence is too often a cover for incompetence

Why We Fatally Over-Estimate Ourselves

Before I address this important issue, a quick reminder that my next live course, Inquiry For Awakening begins this Thursday, March 30. Are you good at what you do? There are many managers in the world. In my experience, very few know what they’re doing. And for good reason, because leadership is so rarely taught that we’re…

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What is, is, What is not, is not, And that is all there is

Inquiry For Awakening

When I was a child, I had a recurring nightmare. Some terrifying force came to get me by moving further away. It attacked me somehow by moving away, which makes no sense, I know. And there was no “something,” that was what was so disturbing. It couldn’t be known, which made it even scarier. Nothing…

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