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Excuses, Excuses: Whataboutism

Today we’re going to talk about Whataboutism, one of the most popular ways people deceive you. Early last year, the Oxford English Dictionary added the word whataboutism to its catalog: “The technique or practice of responding to an accusation or difficult question by making a counter-accusation or raising a different issue.” Whataboutism is the perhaps…

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How NOT to be “The Man” in Your Employees’ Eyes

One of my favorite movies is the cult classic, “Office Space” written by Mike Judge, the nefarious creator of Beavis and Butthead. In the film he portrays management as being so incompetent that it’s comedic. But it’s easy to miss the powerful lessons amidst the caricature. Let’s unpack one of the most-loved scenes to learn…

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One Powerful Way to Create Instant Change in Your Life

What if there were a way to instantly get the results you want? More money, more time, better employees—whatever you want? I know what you’re thinking: “Isn’t that the result of hard work?” “Don’t I have to change as a person?” “What if I haven’t earned those results yet?” You’re thinking too small! You may…

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You Are Not Your Thoughts, Part 2

Last week we deconstructed the infamous “There is no spoon” scene from The Matrix to begin our celebration of the film’s twenty year anniversary. Next, I want to want to examine two important, and opposite choices in the movie that represent aspects of the human psyche: the choice Neo makes to leave the Matrix, and…

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You Are Not Your Thoughts, Part 1

This spring makes the 20th anniversary of the release of The Matrix, one of the most spiritually significant mainstream films of our time. It’s a movie about waking up, and it brilliantly uses some ancient zen wisdom that I thought I’d unpack in a blog, and possibly a series. Part of the genius of The…

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Accountability: What We All Want But Won't Ask For - Clear and Open

Can You Push Someone Further? Can You Be Pushed?

Question: How do you know if you can push your people further? Answer: They will tell you, if you know how to listen. Recently I was messaging with a Clear and Open member, let’s call him Andy. It went like this. This is a good example of the power of asking questions. Josef: “Relook at…

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Have You Just Been Giving (or Receiving) Lip Service?

I grew up in the historic town of Concord, Massachusetts, a couple miles from Thoreau’s Walden pond, the site of the first battle of the Revolutionary War, and a dozen other things that would probably bore you as much as they did me as a kid. In third grade, my class took an intrepid field…

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Excuses, Excuses: The Work in Progress

“I’m working on the mustard on my chin. It used to be way worse.” I helped a CEO (let’s call her Jane) of a financial services company identify her over-responsible tendencies and how she caused herself overwhelm. She was spread incredibly thin and wasn’t making time for what was most important. I discovered she had…

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Sometimes You Need to Lose to Make Space for What You’ll Gain

I’m not joking when I say what I’m most proud of is not killing myself. I lost everything in my life that mattered to me over the course of about 18 months. Just one piece of that was the 1,500 square foot home I owned in Oregon. Following some bad advice, I sold it at…

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Remove Internal Resistance with Self Love—Not Self Discipline

There are scores of strategies to manage yourself, and I want to talk about the one most often forgotten: self-love. Anyone who has raised children knows that love doesn’t mean giving a person whatever they want. Self-love is no exception. One of the reasons I don’t like the term self-discipline is because it connotes forcing…

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